Panache

We are living in a world of misunderstanding. From inserting an expressive emoji at the end of the text to adding multiple exclamation points at the end of each sentence. We try our best to express ourselves in the best possible ways and yet we fail.

 There are certain practices that we unknowingly do that can destroy our image for both our social groups and our near and dear ones. You may not be aware of it but they may begin to avoid you because of those. Check out the list below and see if you are doing these things that could make people despise you.

The way you express your emotions

Emotional expressions are as varied as the kind of people on this planet. It varies with people, with situations, with motives, and sometimes with places. But, the way you express your emotions can have a deep impact on the people you are communicating with.

When you try to express something, you always tend to express it in words. But, using those words in a certain tone, certain form, with a pitch, or the choice of words also matters. People who are calm but express their thoughts assertively or with confidence are often respected by others around them.

However, people who have a negative tone, an overly dramatic tone, or an angry tone towards everything in life can create a negative image in people’s minds. It does not leave a good impression on others and might make people avoid you in certain cases.

Also read: 10 ways to fulfill your emotional needs.

The Power of Listening

In a world, where people’s attention spans remain divided or have shortened over time, the magic of attentive listening has not lost its charm. While communicating in a group, people despise those who tend to talk over others or don’t let anyone else speak.

Remember when was the last time someone listened to you attentively, not only understanding your words but comprehending what you were trying to say? Also, remember when was the last time you did the same with someone?

In our fast lives, when no one has time for anyone. Your virtue of active listening and expressing that you listened carefully can make you stand out among all the crowds that people meet regularly.

Also read: Effective listening can change your life. Here’s how to practice it in your daily life.

Your words vs Your actions

The first impression of you is the most significant for other people. They try to judge you almost immediately over your words and make a subconscious decision about whether would want to make a lasting relationship with you or not.

However, that decision might be overturned if your words don’t match your actions in a long time. You might come across as untrustworthy, unreliable, or often pretentious. And people would eventually try to stay away from you.

Always try to do things before you decide to announce them to others. Make sure you always have a code of conduct to follow. And be careful that your words align with what you do.

Self-awareness

Self-awareness is the kind of wisdom that comes with age. During the early years of your life when you are trying to understand the world and build yourself accordingly, you can commit a lot of things that you might be unaware of.

However, after a certain age, you need to understand your personality, build your mental and emotional self, and conduct your behavior accordingly. Real wisdom lies in knowing what you are, what you are capable of, and how you represent yourself to the world.

Self-awareness changes as time moves on according to the changes in life and situations. But being self-aware would make you recognizable in the crowd that is lost or unsure of themselves.  Anna Wintour says, “Even if I am completely unsure, I’ll pretend I know exactly what I’m talking about and make a decision.”

Also read: 8 things to know about yourself.

Using Unempathetic Phrases or Words

Digitization has connected the world in ways we could not have imagined a decade ago. Now, we are open to more countries, races, people from all parts of the world and different backgrounds.

However, our thinking can barely comprehend the vastness of the world that is presented to us on our devices. We are still those simple beings with a normal life and a fairly normal routine. Unfortunately, in all of this, if we come across someone with a different thought process, lifestyle, or living, it becomes hard for us to understand that.

In such situations, we tend to use harsh and unempathetic phrases or words that immediately bring our impression down. Most of the time we don’t even mean it. But since we express it in a harsh tone because of our unawareness it can create a toxic effect.

The best way is to steer clear when speaking about such things. We can be more open-minded, empathetic, and kind while dealing with people.

Have you noticed any of these behaviors in people around you? Or have you lost respect for people because of the above-listed things? What are the other things that you would like to add to the list?